Comments on: Why Being A Mom Isn’t Enough

By: Dina Lingo-Aguilar

Dina Lingo-Aguilar — Mon, 09 Mar 2015 10:29:09 +0000

I am the mother of 5 children and one grandchild. For a lot of years now I did put my all into my children. Every ounce of my soul was for them. I love them so much. I am adopted and don’t have really any family so I wanted to build roots for my children they will have each other. I don’t regret being a mother but I do regret not taking more me time. When I do try to do me time you would think something big is going on they are all freaking out where are you going what are you doing? I have just recently started taking some time for me more and actually analyzing who I am again. It is all foggy I lost myself over the last 22 years. My children have very good hearts when it comes to others. Most days I feel literally invisible to my family. I love this article it helps me to not feel so guilty for being me not just a mother but a women with my own dreams for myself. I have worked and been a stay at home mom. Both are hard you always want what you don’t have. I love both wish there was enough time in the day to do both. To Sk you must have only 1 child to be able to keep eyes on them. When you have more than one you realize at some point your out numbered. Thanks for the article!

By: Jenna

Jenna — Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:57:06 +0000

Well said, Lady. Just because I became a mommy doesn’t mean I stopped being human. If it makes me selfish to have a few moments to myself so I don’t completely break down, then so be it. My son will have a much healthier and happier childhood because I take care of myself, too. And what is wrong with getting chores done as opposed to sitting there watching your kid color all day? It’s a GOOD thing to teach kids responsibility; to show them that there isn’t some fairy who comes and cleans the house — PEOPLE have to do that. And families can share some of those responsibilities, so everybody wins. Sometimes I hate being a mom in modern times, if only because I feel like I have to CONSTANTLY justify how yes, sometimes I actually take a few minutes away from my child to take care of my needs. GASP. Yes, I have been able to take a shower most days even though I have a small child. My son plays with his toys happily in his room and mommy gets to take her shower. Are my showers always uninterrupted? Of course not, but my precious boy understands that shower time is mommy’s time and unless there is a problem, he can keep himself occupied until I’m done and will gladly join him for a game of Legos. It does NOT make me selfish to want a shower—it makes me HUMAN. It’s absurd that I even have to say these things because most of society would disagree with my desire to take care of my needs in addition to my family’s. Ugh.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 22 Jan 2014 01:44:46 +0000

When I think of being a parent I am always reminded of the “in case of emergency” instructions on an airplane. When oxygen masks fall from above, be sure to put on your mask before helping other passengers in need. Thank you Lady for reminding us that in order to able to care for others, we must care for ourselves as well.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 21 Jan 2014 06:58:24 +0000

I just want to say for the record just how much your posts mean to me. You make us realize on a daily basis that we don’t have to be perfect. That we all struggle with feeling like we are letting our kids down sometimes but we leave with a feeling of hope. Something about pain shared is pain lessened. Please keep doing what you do for those of us who need you and your wonderful outlook on things!! Thank you for simply being you!!

By: BFwithTheLady

BFwithTheLady — Tue, 21 Jan 2014 04:53:36 +0000

I am The Lady’s best friend, and not in an imaginary online staler way either, I’m her actual best friend! With that said I can tell you 100% that her kids have the most happy and awesome childhood! If any of these “haters” had ANY idea how much thought she puts into all the ways in which she loves her kids they would SHUT THE HELL UP! Sorry to curse Lady, well not really sorry, because you we both know how good a curse word can feel, but you know how I feel about anyone telling us how to live our lives! We are all just trying to do our best…for our kids, our families and even ourselves! I love you Lady and I love that you are standing behind your thoughts and words…again, again and again! <3